Quality: Humility Rooted in Calmness
Message of Self-Mastery: Calmness; self-honesty; self-forgetfulness; ability to step back and observe, non-reactiveness; not getting caught up in negativity; understanding that “what goes around comes around”; for healthy distance from people and circumstances; objectivity.
Pattern of Disharmony: Focusing on oneself; anxiety; negative attachment; loss of perspective; “can’t see the forest for the trees”; clouded judgment; nervousness, a quarrelsome nature; false pride; for a deep-seated need for recognition; for “going bananas.”
I am a ripple of calmness among towering waves of egotism on life’s restless sea!
|Greatness of character
|A good listener
|Lacking in clarity
|Clouded in judgment
|Needing to be right
As St. Francis de Sales noted: “Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength.” These words capture the essence of Banana. True strength has no need to boast of itself. Genuine fortitude is gentle, and quiet. Its proprietor knows that it knows and that is enough. Humility’s strength, then, is its action as a vehicle for a higher power to manifest through us instead of being the end result in and of itself. A great saint was once praised for being humble. “How can there be humility, ” he asked, “when there is no sense of ego?”
Banana’s greatness lies in its ability to help us step back, or out of the way altogether, in circumstances that would otherwise snag us-a quarrel with the spouse, a confrontation at work or feeling out of sorts and on the verge of anger or frustration. When we are able to remain nonreactive in the face of confrontation, we are in the positive Banana state. When we take a farsighted view of our problems, we are again expressing the gentle strength of this essence. One man recounts, “After the first night on Banana, I felt like my past was wiped clean and forgiven. I have an easy and soft feeling inside now.”
Melanie relates: “I have been dealing with a difficult mental/emotional state for three years. It involves a broken heart-a loss of love, resulting in depression, insecurity, melancholy and self-pity. I experienced Banana’s qualities of humility and calmness as aids to greater detachment and started seeing my problem as less important, thinking of others first.
“At first on Banana, it felt like I’d taken a Valium. I had a distinct feeling of just rolling with the punches. After one week it seemed to have done its job because it no longer felt important or on my mind to take it. Even my coworker remarked on the change-there was nothing but Banana that 1 could attribute it to. 1 felt very detached all week. I have learned some valuable new habits from Banana.”
The negative Banana condition is one that we have all experienced at one time or another. Honest pride in our accomplishments is harmless and is, in fact, healthy. But false pride is another. To lose sight that true achievements come to us from a higher level of inspiration-the superconscious, mentioned in the Coconut chapter-creates a block in our energy flow, much like damming up a stream.
The negative Banana state is exhibited as the need to be right; the Itold-you-so attitude; the desire to add our two cents when what we’re really after is having the last word. These attitudes-anxiety, nervousness, and a quarrelsome nature-are the foes of true calmness. Through Banana’s quiet strength we are able to say, “Yes, maybe I was wrong”-or to say nothing at all where words would only prove inflammatory.
We have all experienced someone trying to “get our goat,” the goat symbolizing our peace of mind. To give in to negative emotions by getting angry or upset, even righteously so, means we have lost. Instead, we have only succeeded in filling our bodies with biochemical poisons manufactured by negative emotions. If repeated often enough, this harmful pattern inscribes into our cells the blueprint for disease and the need for Banana.
Read about the lives of famous Banana theme personalities.
If you find yourself involved in an argument, say to your opponent, “Maybe you are right.” Release the need to be right and be open to what you can learn from the experience.
Study one of the martial arts and learn to work with nonviolent flows of energy flows.
A gentle surf on the tropical shore rhythmically drums its fingers on the shell-strewn beach. As an exercise in consciousness, identify yourself with the sand. “Tap, tap, tap,” reiterate the waves. Now allow your consciousness to recede from the beach that is presently upstaged by a five-star sunset of ever-changing hues. Observe the deep reds and kingly violets weave soft patterns in the quiet sky.
“Who am I?” you ask the wave-stirring wind. “Who is asking?” the wind, in question form, replies. You set the question aside like a toy sand pail and dive into the waves. Imagine yourself floating, raft-like, upon them. Play with the thought of becoming a wave. The rivulets to your left and right for miles are like brothers and sisters. You frolic together on the ocean of life. Become the littlest wave possible. And now become merely the salty froth on that wave.
Foam on one small wave in a great big ocean? How little you are! How tiny, and humble. And how little ”you” matter anyway. A wave of great calmness washes over you in the realization of your little part in the oceanic drama of creation.