Date Essence


For tender sweetness.

Product Description

Quality: Tender Sweetness

Message of Self-Mastery: Attunement to others’ feelings; discrimination; receptivity; open-mindedness; easy to talk to; welcoming; a magnetic nature; for dealing kindly with the public; self-nurturance.

Pattern of Disharmony: Judgmental and critical of others; intolerance; unaccepting nature; for an easily irritated nature; unpleasant to be around; inhospitality.


I send waves of sweetness to everyone I meet.


Sweet Magnetic
Tender Discerning
Accepting Drawing abundance
Sensitive Compassionate
Discriminating Wise
Receptive Solid
Open-minded Strong
Contented Self-nurturing
Welcoming Responsible


Judgmental Unaccepting
Lonely Unpleasant companion
Irritable Inhospitable
Irascible Sour
Craving sweets Discontented
Critical Narrow
Intolerant Annoyed


The positive side of Date expresses a warmth and amiability that draws people to us. Unconditional acceptance is a magnetic attitude with the power to illicit kindness from friends and strangers alike. The following is one of my all-time favorite Date stories.

“It wasn’t until a friend recommended Date that I started to look at how judgmental and critical I am,” wrote Peter. “I’m constantly finding fault with my girlfriend – it’s a wonder she’s still with me! Anyway, I took Date one night and felt different, though I can’t say what it was. The next morning, I went out for my morning bike ride, and very strange things happened. Everybody-I mean everybody-was waving to me. Two strangers even stopped me just to chat! I continued on the Date, and for the next three weeks, friends I hadn’t seen in years started calling, wanting to get together. I don’t mean one or two-I mean about half a dozen.”

The positive Date state is also one of tenderness. Often without knowing it, others feel embraced by our non-judgmental, unconditional love. “I guess the Date must be working,” said Christina. “I started taking it this morning and, this afternoon, my husband kept smiling at me and telling me how sweet I looked. I may stay on this one a long time!”

This is one of my all-time favorite reports: “I use Date every weekend to be nice to my boyfriend. We’ve been dating-no pun intend-ed-for three months now and, although I love him dearly, he bores me to death. He’s just set in his ways and doesn’t want to change. I get irritable and testy, and then I start screaming at him. He still bores me, but on Date, I just put up with him.”

Date and Peach share an interesting vibrational similarity. Both residents of the feminine half of the Spectrum, Peach symbolizes the young mother, whereas Date represents the indulgent grandmother, wont to spoil us at times with her sweet love. Date, then, helps us to understand that we are all a part of this human circus. Audience or actor, clown or acrobat-it’s all the same. Without judgment, we become sweet. Without narrowness of vision, we grow in the quality of tenderness.


The negative Date condition is anything but sweet. Here we see the miserly Scrooge who not only withholds his finer qualities from others, but who is irritable and irascible as well. In the negative state of Date, one becomes critical instead of discerning, judgmental rather than discriminating. He who succumbs to this state of mind finds himself without friends-lonely and, frankly, unlikable. In the negative Date condition, much like Blackberry, one unconsciously pushes others away.

Negative Date possesses a certain narrowness of attitude-egocentricity, or viewing everything in relation to oneself. Granted, sometimes people use themselves as a point of reference, but the concept infers a negative connotation when we choose to see the world as centered around ourselves, or when we expect others to be exactly like us.

From this vantage point, we are wont to compare. Others are, by nature, different from us. Before long, we are not only comparing but tagging value judgments onto those comparisons as well. “She’s taller than me-how can I go out with her?” “He dresses funny-those styles were outdated years ago!” Now we find not only judgment but separation from others as a result of such narrow and unloving attitudes. These character pitfalls indicate the need for Date essence.


Develop the quality of hospitality-through having friends over for tea or dinner; by taking an official role as a greeter at your church, community center or formal social event; or by participating in family gettogethers or reunions.

Observe how you relate to discourteous drivers while out in traffic. Improve on this if necessary, especially when they irritate you.

Do kindly things for friends and family, by anticipating their needs ahead of time-mending for a single friend or relative; bringing a cooked meal to someone who is ill; or delivering flowers to celebrate a birthday or house-warming.


It’s cold outside, colder than usual. You bundle up with hat, scarf and mittens, without even being reminded by anyone-except the burst of snowflakes that blows in the door as you step out. Everything looks big, bigger than you remember. But that is because you have become very little. You find yourself in the prime of childhood.

The trees look taller, the snowdrifts along the sidewalk, higher. With a child’s imagination, you know it’s only a stone’s throw to the North Pole. At every third or fourth step, you punch your boot into a pile of feathery snow, just to see how it feels.

There’s the cabin now, built of stone as white as snow. The chimney lazily exhales a careless trail of smoke into the twilight sky. You knock on the door and are greeted by the legend himself. Although your eyes parallel the great round belt of the red-costumed man, already you feel welcomed and silently invited in. The scent of hot apple cider spiced with cinnamon sticks further entices you. Is it your imagination or is the room filled with the sound of laughter and sleigh bells?

Your child-eyes drink in the sweetness of a red-felt belly and a cascade of white beard and white hair escaping the red hat. But most of all you are caught up in the loving, laughing eyes of this living wonder whom youngsters have waited for and squealed for since the very first children sat on his lap and spilled out their wishes.

You know you can ask anything of old Saint Nick-toys, treasures, candy or gold. In fact, just knowing that you can have whatever you ask for makes the asking a very serious matter indeed. What do you want? Toys, treasures, candy or gold?

“Yes, Santa,” you hear yourself saying. “I want all of these things in the form of sweetness that I may give them freely to others, young and old alike.” He answers you, not with words, but with a very big, crinkly smile. And in that treasured smile is all the sweetness you have ever desired.


Testimonials for the Flower Essences

My husband, myself and my 2 children have been using the flower essences for the last 4 months and I feel they have really addressed and dealt with problems that we knew and many we didn’t know of. The essences are very powerful and deeply spiritual in nature. My family started with orange and strawberry flower essence and within a week of taking them we are felt uplifted and with a deeper and higher energy and free from a many issues. Since then we have taken many different ones as had been indicated by the test and each time the essence prescribed has been exactly what was needed to fix the problem at that point in time. For us the essences have opened a new, deep, and very powerful door allowing us to improve ourselves and evolve. I deeply recommend everyone should take them. ~ S.P., New Delhi

Lettuce: This one flower remedy handles many many issues of persons with autism such as – restlessness, repetitive behaviours, hyperactivity, disturbed or delayed sleep, aggression to name a few. Seen definitive results in the kids. They are much more calmer with the remedy, having good sleep at night and communicating their needs. Its one WOW remedy for persons with autism. ~ Deepak Verma, Transformation (Organization for children with special needs), New Delhi

I was going through a ‘big’ situation of change of work, from working in a comfortable job as a Head of Finance in a large multinational company, to deciding to start my entrepreneurship in the area that really attracted me of people development as a trainer and life coach. I was badly ‘caught’ in the test, as it felt like a very confusing change to me. My mind was mostly puzzled, unclear and I really didn’t know if I was even thinking right! The only thing I was sure of then, was that I needed to somehow put all my energies in trying to do what felt right, even if it was very difficult. It was the tomato flower essence that provided that extra Mental Strength and ability to Endure with a deep sense of patience and calmness. With endurance came also the ability to Focus and I found my-self changing almost immediately and started to view ‘difficulties’ on the way, as ‘opportunities’! ~ Dipti Bhatia, Gurgaon

I am a homeopathic practitioner since 18 years. I have gone through the book The Essential Flower Essence Handbook. After my in-depth studies, I prescribed more than 100 essences to my patients, especially on their mood and nature. I used Avocado Essence for memory and concentration in school children and observed their results are improving from their next test only. I used Cherry Essence for cheerfulness and Pineapple for confidence. In the next follow up patients reported that they feel improvement as soon as they took the first drop. Many patients have started reading The Essential Flower Essences Handbook and want to know more about the essences for their use and help others also. ~ Dr. Ketan Shah, MD (Homeopath), Ahmedabad

I have two sons, both are very active children. My elder son is diagnosed with ADHD (mild). I get overworked due to many personal reasons and i tend to loose my peace and sense of balance. I have been working very hard with my elder one, but now seems to loose my patience. One day on some refernce i contacted Dipti ji and she adviced Tomato and Spinach essences for me. This worked very well, specially Spinach essence. I am trying Avocado essence for my child now. ~ R.S.

Jena came from North East and joined me as assistant sales executive in my office. First week went off well. The second week I found her disturbed and most distracted. Turned out she had lost her mother some time back and she was missing her that day. And all in all she was demotivated to concentrate on work. Corn Essence was handy. One dose under the tongue and 20 minutes later Jena was sitting in front of me asking me how to deal with a certain difficult customer! ~ Kamini, Bangalore