Qualities: Flexibility and Self-acceptance
Message of Self-Mastery: Sense of humor; fluidity; ability to “go with the flow”; at ease with self and others; self-liberating; energy to move forward in life; relaxation; for setting healthy boundaries; ability to “roll with the punches.”
Pattern of Disharmony: Rigidity; tension; an uncompromising nature; difficulty with change; unrealistic expectations of oneself; fanaticism; self-limiting; too strict a sense of discipline; for over-extending oneself; self-dominating; suppression of faults; trying too hard; self-martyrdom; judgmental of self.
I am relaxed and peaceful: I am one with all that is!
|Adjustable to change||Self-accepting|
|Adaptable||Having a sense of humor|
|Disciplined in moderation||Tolerant|
|Fluid||Able to set healthy boundaries|
|Holding unrealistic ideals||Self-critical|
The positive Fig state is expressed as flexible, fluid, adaptable energy. Easy to get along with and open to new ideas, individuals in the positive Fig state make great companions. Arbitrators, umpires, emperors and judges-all are fitting Fig-like roles. Ask them for help in making decisions. Able to see both sides of the picture, they can dive into their bag of wisdom without inhibitive rules blocking their understanding. These are classic “go with the flow” people.
Fig supports the development of discrimination without judgment and clear observation without criticism. Feeling comfortable about yourself-your appearance, your daily habits and your outlook on life-is the voice of Fig. The ability to accept both your strengths and weaknesses, and your victories and mistakes, is the echo of Fig. Living in the positive Fig state allows us to adapt to changes, ranging from sudden to long anticipated. And since change and growth are inherent to the human condition, we all need Fig’s remarkable support at one time or another. This essence exemplifies a state of relaxation-the perfect balance between discipline and flexibility.
The negative Fig state manifests as too many self-created rules that confine instead of freeing us. Negative Fig forces us to live in a little box of “should’s” and “have-to’s.” It is said that too many rules kill the spirit. Perhaps we have created ideals that we cannot live up to. Maybe we have placed unrealistic expectations on ourselves that have only constructed walls of tension and frustration.
It is important to note the difference between Fig and Date. Whereas we project Fig’s perfectionist attitude onto ourselves, the judgmental attitude of the negative Date condition is aimed at others. Fig is self-critical; negative Date is critical of others.
Fanaticism, dogmatism and many other “isms” are symptomatic of the negative Fig state. Fanaticism can easily find fertile soil in the garden of daily habits, diets and religious beliefs. Its fruits, though, are always the same-mental rigidity. “I have so many food allergies that there’s very little I can eat without having reactions,” Cheryl lamented. “I have to deal with bloating, constipation and skin rashes. When I took Fig, I noticed that my symptoms were greatly lessened. With this encouraging sign, I’ve been eating a greater variety of foods.”
Indeed, diet is a well frequented arena for the indication of Fig. We live in a society where obesity is a serious health problem, not to mention the opposite extreme of eating disorders such as bulimia and anorexia. Obsessed as we are with the stick-like figures adorning glamour magazines, it’s no wonder we’re confused! As the New Age saying goes, “denial” ain’t just a river in Egypt. Fig, then, not only works with excessive food intake; it also helps those on restrictive health diets to relax with their prescribed programs.
Mentally note areas of your life where you are self-critical. Focusing on one area each week, consciously redefine yourself in positive and supportive ways.
Do yoga postures through the aid of a class, a book or a good video.
Allow enough time in your daily schedule for relaxation and enter-tainment-anything from a leisurely walk to having friends over for dinner.
Read light fiction or humorous pieces every day.
Summertime closes its doors in the face of autumn. The warm sunny days, like candy wrappers, are pinched at both ends by a new chill in the air. Sweaters at dawn and dusk are now a must. The leaves have not yet put on their new colors, but you can tell they’re thinking about it. “What to wear?” you almost hear them muse. “A rusty red, perhaps? A grocery bag brown? This green has got to go!” Their sense of humor, stemming from complete acceptance of the changing seasons, makes you chuckle.
But dress they must for this most special event of their lives-the windborne descent from limb to ground. No matter that the trees’ withdrawn life force relegates them to the category of vestige. Their final role is the fluttering, earthbound dance. At curtain call they will either be raked up into large piles on lawns where children will gleefully pounce on them, or quietly compost themselves to nourish their beloved mother trees in the timeless cycle of death and rebirth.
Ah, here comes the wind now, right on schedule! Mother Nature’s arm sports no wristwatch; she knows by sixth sense when everything needs to happen. But very few people know the truth about the wind- that it is Mother Earth’s breath. She blows and blows, like a child extinguishing festively lit birthday candles-over the mountains, through the mesas and around the trees. Her wind-breath bends and bows; its strength lies in its flexibility. The wind plays by the rules-but it also knows when to break them.
You, too, are like the wind-strong yet gentle and disciplined yet malleable.
Testimonials for the Flower Essences
My husband, myself and my 2 children have been using the flower essences for the last 4 months and I feel they have really addressed and dealt with problems that we knew and many we didn’t know of. The essences are very powerful and deeply spiritual in nature. My family started with orange and strawberry flower essence and within a week of taking them we are felt uplifted and with a deeper and higher energy and free from a many issues. Since then we have taken many different ones as had been indicated by the test and each time the essence prescribed has been exactly what was needed to fix the problem at that point in time. For us the essences have opened a new, deep, and very powerful door allowing us to improve ourselves and evolve. I deeply recommend everyone should take them. ~ S.P., New Delhi
Lettuce: This one flower remedy handles many many issues of persons with autism such as – restlessness, repetitive behaviours, hyperactivity, disturbed or delayed sleep, aggression to name a few. Seen definitive results in the kids. They are much more calmer with the remedy, having good sleep at night and communicating their needs. Its one WOW remedy for persons with autism. ~ Deepak Verma, Transformation (Organization for children with special needs), New Delhi
I was going through a ‘big’ situation of change of work, from working in a comfortable job as a Head of Finance in a large multinational company, to deciding to start my entrepreneurship in the area that really attracted me of people development as a trainer and life coach. I was badly ‘caught’ in the test, as it felt like a very confusing change to me. My mind was mostly puzzled, unclear and I really didn’t know if I was even thinking right! The only thing I was sure of then, was that I needed to somehow put all my energies in trying to do what felt right, even if it was very difficult. It was the tomato flower essence that provided that extra Mental Strength and ability to Endure with a deep sense of patience and calmness. With endurance came also the ability to Focus and I found my-self changing almost immediately and started to view ‘difficulties’ on the way, as ‘opportunities’! ~ Dipti Bhatia, Gurgaon
I am a homeopathic practitioner since 18 years. I have gone through the book The Essential Flower Essence Handbook. After my in-depth studies, I prescribed more than 100 essences to my patients, especially on their mood and nature. I used Avocado Essence for memory and concentration in school children and observed their results are improving from their next test only. I used Cherry Essence for cheerfulness and Pineapple for confidence. In the next follow up patients reported that they feel improvement as soon as they took the first drop. Many patients have started reading The Essential Flower Essences Handbook and want to know more about the essences for their use and help others also. ~ Dr. Ketan Shah, MD (Homeopath), Ahmedabad
I have two sons, both are very active children. My elder son is diagnosed with ADHD (mild). I get overworked due to many personal reasons and i tend to loose my peace and sense of balance. I have been working very hard with my elder one, but now seems to loose my patience. One day on some refernce i contacted Dipti ji and she adviced Tomato and Spinach essences for me. This worked very well, specially Spinach essence. I am trying Avocado essence for my child now. ~ R.S.
Jena came from North East and joined me as assistant sales executive in my office. First week went off well. The second week I found her disturbed and most distracted. Turned out she had lost her mother some time back and she was missing her that day. And all in all she was demotivated to concentrate on work. Corn Essence was handy. One dose under the tongue and 20 minutes later Jena was sitting in front of me asking me how to deal with a certain difficult customer! ~ Kamini, Bangalore