Qualities: Kindness, Compassion
Message of Self-Mastery: Forgiveness; sympathy; taking responsibility for one’s actions; benevolence; generosity; for releasing old wounds; desire to help others; the ability to “turn the other cheek.”
Pattern of Disharmony: Feelings easily hurt; a touchy nature; for taking things too personally; for when people say hurtful things; overreactive-ness; insensitivity; for lashing out; lacking understanding; blaming others; resentment; bitterness; attitude of “I don’t deserve this”; unkindness.
In kindness I am one with all. The perfume of unconditional love blows through me to touch their hearts.
|Able to let go||Generous|
|Sympathetic||Able to release hurts|
|Easily hurt Cruel|
|Insensitive to others||Unkind|
|Blaming of others||Lashing out|
Raspberry could be called the essence for our age, with its feminine gentleness and compassionate nurturing so needed in these troubled times. One in the positive Raspberry state is both forgiving and compassionate. Similar to other Quadrant IV essences, positive Raspberry reflects our understanding that the hurts that come to us are our teachers. Our lesson is to reciprocate only love when others treat us poorly. Our task is not to retaliate, but rather to deflect their unkindness and thus be freed of any emotional thorns of inner conflict.
Those who have learned this lesson of Raspberry make excellent teachers, counselors and therapists. These individuals qualify for any occupation that involves working closely with others, for they have mastered the ability to transmute negative and harmful emotions. To hold a grudge does far more damage to the holder than the individual at whom it is directed. Grudges are like bricks-one by one, they create an entire wall of resentment, preventing a forward movement of energy. Grudges leave one heavy-hearted, even hard-hearted, instead of the desired opposite-kindhearted.
The positive Raspberry state acts as a vibrational salve for the wounds of the heart. The healing professions abound with individuals strong in Raspberry-like qualities, simply because their own past pains have taught them great compassion. Sympathizing, empathizing and listening are their hallmarks. Lastly, please know that you needn’t be emotionally wounded to take Raspberry. It also helps kind people to be even kinder!
The negative Raspberry condition is present in those who are easily hurt; who react emotionally; who lash out without apparent reason or who are just plain “not nice.” All of these actions can indicate either an immaturity, in the sense of not yet having matured, or an aftershock to an emotional wound not yet healed. Men more often than women tend to express this angry/hurt pattern because our culture does not allow them to openly show their feelings. Those who do so may find themselves objects of ridicule that only serves to further suppress their true feelings.
If Raspberry is the essence for forgiveness, then the negative Raspberry state is one of bitterness, resentment and blaming others. Administering this essence will either allow the issue in question to dissolve or to be talked out until the emotional climate is cleared.
Raspberry is the essence for partners in relationships that terminate without satisfactory reconciliation. When dear friendships end on a bitter note, Raspberry is indicated. For long-term relationships ending in separation with no friendship salvaged, this essence is again recommended. When marriages dissolve into ugly court battles or lingering animosities, again, look to Raspberry. Sadly, ours is a culture rent with divorce, although there are cases in which no other solution is possible. Especially if children are involved, Raspberry helps to initiate a peaceable friendship and thereby minimize the emotional scarring for all involved.
Develop existing friendships. Call a good friend and just be a listener.
If you have any friendships or relationships that have ended bitterly or are unresolved, patch them up. If this is not possible due to death or their unwillingness, work with prayer to reach a resolution within yourself. Other options are: a self-help book or prayer.
Repeat the following visualization until you feel the relationship in question is cleared of all negativity.
Sit quietly in a comfortable place.
With closed eyes, focus your attention at your heart center-not the physical organ but the center of your astral spine that both gives and receives love. The physical heart is finite; the heart’s spirit is infinite. Feel the boundaries of your heart expanding. Identify yourself with that boundless expanse of space. Now draw to mind friends and family members whom you love. Perhaps some have passed on or moved away. Let not time or distance impede the flow of kindly, loving thoughts to them.
Imagine these dear people, one by one, as children. One at a time, reach down and take each one’s hand as you walk through a flowered mountain meadow together. Feel a current of love coursing from your heart through your arm, and out your palm into theirs.
Hold this image of walking through a meadow. This time, though, the person’s hand in yours belongs to someone who has deeply hurt you. Resist the instinctive, self-protective desire to withdraw your hand. Deliberately and consciously extend a flow of heart energy to this individual. Rather than focusing on the details of what needs to be forgiven and whatever sharp thread of bitterness that remains, concentrate on sending love.
Let these waves of love blend with the delicate aroma of the wildflowers and the cool mountain breeze. To give love to those dear to you is kindly; to return only loving kindness to those who have hurt you is heroic.